I was once so NOT into Christmas that I just stopped doing it. Then I booked myself (JUST me) into luxurious hotels far far away and let my family celebrate without me. Seriously, I did that. But, oh how I missed the magic, togetherness and tenderness of this season. Also, elves, and cookies! And Santa’s rosy cheeks and …Instead of abandoning my family to go write poetry by the shore, I decided to learn how to stay ME, playful and real through it all, so that every drop of this life has me signed onto my joy-boat, no matter what.
#1 If life is a pie…
(and I very much like to think that it is, probably warm cherry with homemade whipped cream) then, the heightened togetherness of the holidays introduce rarely played roles into our pie. Most of your daily pie is just you being you, and then here come the holidays and suddenly you’re someone’s daughter, or an aunt, or an ex, or you’re obligatory Santa, or an only friend or a mama. Sometimes the surprise of encountering the full range of all the beautiful human games we play, can shock us out of remembering the primary-ness of our primary role: to vibrate clearly, happily, and extra yessily.Your only role in life is a vibrational one.
And no matter how rich you are, ain’t none of us can afford the luxury of forgetting to tend our primary role, because Law of Attraction just don’t quit. There are no vacations from consciousness. You are always drawing in what you’re vibrating at. If you let yourself get stressed out and start doing obligatory rather than hell yes things, and lose your self care rituals, you’re going to draw in dramatic and stressful life circumstances which is why so many people arrive, gasping and depleted on the shores of New Years Day, desperate to return to their true role, Being Happy. They scrabble using diets and new structures to hold them in place so they can clean up their frequency, relax, and feel good again.
But I say, why ever leave the sweetly connected spot? Why not hold Your own hand all the way through? And in a season devoted to frolicking why the heck would we be anything but wildly playful?
#2 Which is why
you’re going into this holiday season with your conscious guns a blazin’! Think of this as the Big Game prep time. Instead of (or in addition to) getting ready for Christmas by shopping and cooking or avoiding shopping and cooking, you’re going to tend your vibrational playing field so that you will encounter the best of each you meet, and be delighted and sated by all you engage in. You’re going to have the best, most deliberate and love-drenched holiday of your whole, bloom festival life. Ready?
#3 First! Joy O’ Clock is your sacred
little nugget of time that you stake out as a the biggest gift in the world for your aligned self. Here, you do JUST ONE THING: tend and grow your joy. JOY O’ Clock becomes a home for all your consciousness tools and a safe space to begin to use them regularly. Make a home for love to return to and love will flood your shores. Your joyful rituals will be a life raft through the holidays. They help you stay wide awake.But what does it mean to tend your joy, I mean, really? I know that I’ve had to kind of dig to recover my original know how about the Joyful Life. Here’s some of my current thots that are workin’ for me:
#4 WE are the architects
of our own life experience and when we take the time to imagine things the way we want them and to clear up everything that’s stand in the way of that coming in, we live the life of our dreams.
Grid it! ( WHATEVER it is, you can dream it better: dinners with in laws, Christmas Shopping, Christmas Morning … )Here’s how: Get some markers and blank paper. Put on some cheery music and close your eyes, let everything go for a moment, then begin to fill the page with emotional words that feel like you want to feel on and during the holidays. Get arty. Draw shapes that match the feelings. Go deep. The longer you meander around those good feeling words, the stronger the point of attraction you’re creating.
p.s. As you grid, you’ll find a pure tone that feels AMAZING, but then … you’ll encounter the stuck beliefs that don’t match those dreams. Those are what Abraham-Hicks calls your bugaboos.
They’re not true and they are the reason you’re not living your dreams now.
Grid for our Travel by Yes mission!
#5 And so you clear
the energetic stuckies. Like giving away old clothes. And most of your old stuff is around other people. We let old, so boring resentments and discontents cloud our beautiful, loving hearts for long enough! Why not let this holiday season inspire you to find ways to return to love in these areas? If you do nothing else, do a gratitude list for each of the people you’ll be celebrating with. It changes everything. And you can do it in your head while driving. You can do it with your kids. You can do it in the shower.
If you’re feeling like you want to go deeper, I recommend using Byron Katie’s â€œThe Workâ€ and â€œHo’oponoponoâ€ or our version â€œHo’oponoyessoâ€ and the focus wheel just can’t be beat for thrilling yourself with new love and clarity. I’m also a fantastic coach. Just sayin’.
#6 Then you play
and slip into full presence, listening to a story from a long forgotten elder, or maybe making cards or googly eyes with a newly discovered baby niece. You’re unbusy in the head, relaxed, not wanting to be anywhere else, and filled with huge gratitude for this precious now. We get so durn STARVED for fully presence during this busy time of quick and often superficial engagements.Buoy the season by making deliberate playdates
with those who are buzzing for you. For me, these playdates have quickly become one of my bestist pleasures and keep me wildly happy. Here’s a quick how to for making playdates:
- plan to do something that rings for you and feels even a tad meaningful. Be easy, and loose, the plans will likely evolve as you play together.
- Don’t invite everyone and don’t be scared to say no to others. A good no makes a good yes even greater.
- Don’t cancel or get so busy you can’t really be present. Intend to show up with all that you are.
- Cell phones off! Gift yourself with the fullest presence.
- Do a gratitude list with the person before you play together. Remember their bright lights. Savor their beauty. It’ll help draw the best out of them.
- Do a grid for the interaction. How do you want to feel? Take five minutes and grid it into existence.
Now that’s you’ve laid the vibrational ground work, and feel ready, it’s time to â€¦
#7 Pack that Beautiful Adventure Bag!
â€œIf you think you’re enlightened go spend a week with your familyâ€ Ram Dass
I carry a literal adventure bag everywhere I go. Yes, I am currently on a mission to slow travel the world via yes, so the adventure bag is pretty much a necessity. Headphones have literally saved my life more times than I count. So have the sidewalk chalk and bubbles I carry. But more important than that is my energetic Adventure Bag, chalk full of the consciousness tools that allow me to stay happy, in balance and playful with my reality.One of the favorite things In MY energetic adventure bag, this holiday season, are the kooky rituals that keep me rocking, keep me playing in the yes, like…
#8 Peeing With the Trees
I ONLY pee outside when I’m at my parent’s house.
WAIT, don’t run! There is some very useful and only SLIGHTLY peepee-involving spiritual stuff here.
I’m not (very) feral or a pee advocate (wait, WHAT?) But I am a wide awake for the breezes at dawn, playful little spirit budlet, who sometimes gets kooky pants during the holidays, where there’s so much unintentional hooby hah. And in order to maintain my connection with ME in the midst of all the hooby ha a la, I have developed playful rituals that keep me awake, conscious and consciously happy.
The practice of peeing outside is an odd one I accidentally began many years ago, when all my sisters and their kids were visiting and I couldn’t wait for the bathroom to clear. Beyond pee-full, I was also fussy, overfed, bored and impatient, so I huffed my way outside. Once out there, the
stars started their magic on me, and by the time I’d finished and breathed the cool night air, and thanked the earth, I was unfussy, and had some clarity. The tree pee interrupted my unconsciousness.
#9 Boogie in bathrooms
just a 3 minute private jig with my headphones in will shake loose any fog and get you right back into your business. I also like to have a couple of aces up my sleeve, like fresh new high consciousness games that get everyone synched up and playing in their connectedness, or just being prepared to play your favorite game. Idle hands really are the devils tools and if you don’t have deliberate structures offered, people tend to just default to more food more booze more wooze more lose.
#10 Call your alignment bud
when you feel yourself losing momentum. If you don’t have one, look around, they are the conscious, grounded, balance and nearly always happy person who loves the hoo hoo out of you and will say glorious things to you when you call or text, like “go climb a tree, NOW and don’t whine. It’s never attractive.”
# Yes. OR, you can just take a shortcut to ABSOLUTE glee
by simply following the yesses. Seriously, as Bashar says, if you are always following the path of your highest excitement, you’re always EXACTLY on path. You can keep it simple this holiday by being a little fearless with your no’s and even more fearless with your yesses. What do you want to say yes to? For the love of all that is, well, love, SAY THAT YES, and keep following the path of true yesses as they light up for you. And let the Universal manager handle the rest of it.Happy holidays playful darlings,
all my love,