1. Burn down the idea that play equals childish. Joy’s fire wants to burn you free.
2. Children and animals use play to get ready for their next stage; play keeps them loose, honed, open, pliant, responsive, curious, and in flow. So, in what universe does it make a lick of sense to give up your best tool for staying up to speed with your own expansion?
3. The kind of play you really want to do is simultaneously exactly what your inner 8 year old thinks it is, and it’s a thousand fathoms deeper than you can even imagine from here.
4. The more authentically and fully you engage the endeavor before you, the more whoosh, presence, willingness and invisible resources you’ll have available on the canvas of your own now (this is called playing hard, or fully.) This allows your state of being to continually upshift into more and more usable, energized and clear states. Learning how to play with how you do life lets you begin to leverage the power of your own joy.
5. Play is inherently elevating. You don’t need to feel playful or joyful to begin because the act of playing will raise you up, like a lock system in a canal. Here’s how: the endeavors we choose to play in compel our attention, naturally, towards things that make us feel good when we focus upon them, (ooo, color! wow, math secrets! yay, I crushed that jump! Ahhh, my body dancing in perfect harmony with this beautiful music, so satisfying! etc). You can help the rising action by giving yourself over to fascination and getting rid of interruptions, or, really, anything that distracts you from the rising.
6. Play singularizes your focus, calling you to be more and more present with the now (like meditation) so you feel less split and this also helps your boat to rise. The game, the artistic engagement, the deep drop into composition, accepting the playful invitation, regardless of the form, all have within them the bridge you need to return to your natural state of buoyancy.
7. Dr. Who’s phone booth is very different on the inside. People immersed, happy, and armpit-deep in a play-space, are in a different state of being, with an entirely different perspective and point of attraction than what you might observe from the outside. Don’t waste time judging other people’s ways of playing. Reinvest that judgey energy into a high yield inquiry into where your joy lives and what YOUR next adventure smells like (you do you, bruh).
8. Unwend softly. Remembering how to play can feel like standing in line waiting to be chosen in gym class. At first, you may be paralyzed between the twin fears of worrying what to do if someone passes you the ball, and worrying what to do if no one ever does. Don’t worry dumpling, cuz, like every other person, you were born a perfect player. Let your journey back to recovering your playful heart be a private and perfectly messy endeavor, just like, well, life. Primordial ooze, earthquakes, rainbows and all.
9. Structure facilitates abandonment. While a structured game may seem, from your current position of grumpy malaise, to be lame and unattractive, the structure of the play-space will support you in your journey from Grump to Good by compelling your attention away from those thoughts that were making you grumpy and luring your attention onto things that genuinely rock the casbah, especially your casbah.
10. Most people haven’t even begun to play their own life because they’re still tangled up in what other people are doing, or not doing, or might be secretly doing. Bleh. Don’t waste your precious creative life energy in other people’s business. You have no idea what situations or growth curves they’re coming out of, or where they’re tenderly journeying towards. Every milli-ounce of brainjuice you use trying to figure out their business is brainjuice that you’re not using to play open your own beautiful business. All that wasted brainjuice could be used to quietly listen for what new music or adventure is hailing you, or to tune into the baby sprout urges of creative inspiration. It’s brainjuice you could be using to find and tend your own damn fine and perfectly perfect-for-you Yes.
11. Play restores proper vantage. Paradoxically, it is in the moment of great muddle when play has the most opportunity to be a springboard into a refreshed and profound liberation, even though, in those moments, being playful will feel distant and difficult. The more open you are to life playing through you, the more likely it is that you’ll soon discover how play is often the fastest way back to yourself.
12. #12 is currently lost in the Tardis, though we expect Time to fold in on itself again quite soon, at which point, we’ll take a screenshot of whatever #12 is/was/ever could be, and let ya know.
13. Deep play throws us into the eternal present tense. There is no past or future when you are deeply absorbed in play. There isn’t a lot of complicatedness or weirdness here. Just you, the real you. Just Beingness. Hang out here, we dare ya.
14. Play fills you up, buttercup. Filling up your joy coffers with a nice, deep dip into a solid and whole hearted play-experience will leave you with a tremendous and comprehensive readiness that travels well and can’t be easily shaken.
15. Let play infiltrate your whole life. Play a poem instead of writing it. Play dishes (bubbles!) Play sex (bubbles!)
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